We all have a few ideas in the back of our minds that we might not even be aware of. For many of us, these thoughts are “self-conscious.” We are “self-conscious” of how we look, speak, and dress. This is an issue that makes us feel a little self-conscious on a daily basis. The problem with this is that it can cause us to feel inadequate and to compare our appearance to others.
A little self-consciousness can help you get through the day. If you’re self-conscious about how you look, then you won’t be able to do as much as you would like to accomplish. But when you look in the mirror and you see others, you will be able to see your own reflection in the mirror. If you don’t look in the mirror, you’ll have a hard time seeing yourself. That’s okay though. We’re all human.
This is the idea behind many self-help books, like self-esteem, but it applies to looks as well. If you can see yourself in the mirror, then you can see yourself in others. If you look in the mirror too much, youll start to find that you dont look as good as you think you look, or as other people see you. It’s not all about how you look, but how you feel about yourself.
It’s not just about how you look, but how you feel about yourself. If you can let yourself look into the mirror, and see how you feel about yourself, then your inner self will show up. If you find that you feel like you look just the way you do, then youll see a reflection of that, and you’ll see it in others.
As soon as we find ourselves in a state of self-doubt or self-pity, we automatically feel worse about ourselves. That’s because we were just having a bad day, so we feel like we have to do something about it. Our inner critic gets a mental kick out of us being like, “How could you do that?” and “What have you done?” and “You’re so stupid.
Self-doubt and self-pity are not the same thing. Self-doubt is the feeling that you might be falling short of your ideal self image. If you feel this way, try this exercise: Write down anything that comes to mind about yourself. Think about it, then re-think it. You might actually begin to notice a greater amount of self-awareness. You can then begin to feel less self-doubt.
We can learn to recognize our own mental self-doubt and then be aware of it without judgement or self-blame. When we feel self-doubt, we are usually feeling it because of something we did, or something bad that happened, or things in our past.
I don’t really know if there’s any point to this but I like the idea of taking a look at what we think is wrong with us and then try to change it. It’s like a dance of awareness. If you feel you need to do something about it, you just have to take a deep breath, and then start dancing to your own tune. It’s a bit like writing a song or performing a dance.
I think one of the best ways to relieve the anxiety of self-blame is to write more self-criticism songs, and find a way to make your voice more powerful. In a world with so many voices and styles there can be a temptation to just shut up and listen to your own bullshit. But if you find ways to make your own music, or perform your own dances, then you are in a better position to self-criticate.
I recently wrote a song called “Hear Me Cry,” which I recorded while I was watching the latest season of House of Cards. The concept of the song was to write a song about the emotional and physical pain and shame that comes from self-blame. I figured if I wrote a song about that, no one would give it a chance. So I wrote it and kept re-writing it.